Former family lawyer warns AGAINST marriage - insisting it's a 'made-up' construct

A former family lawyer has warned against traditional marriage - claiming it's a 'made-up' construct that doesn't have a place in the 'modern era'.

Cece Xie, from New York City, shared her 'biggest takeaway from family law' on social media. It may make couples rethink any plans to head to the altar. 

Marriage is something many couples dream of, but according to Cece, the legal ramifications behind an official union are worth taking into consideration before you decide to tie the knot. 

Captioning the video, 'My takeaway from law school,' the former family lawyer claimed that marriage is 'made up construct' designed by the government as a 'way for them to create private social welfare networks.' 

Cece Xie, a former family lawyer from New York City, gave a surprising take on marriage and claimed it was 'made up' to benefit the government

She shared her 'biggest takeaway from family law' and warned against marriage - despite being married herself

Cece claimed the government encourages couples to tie the knot because it pushes the responsibility of you onto your family instead of them

'My biggest takeaway from family law is that marriage is just made up. Yes there's a long tradition of marriages throughout history, mostly for economic purposes, political purposes or religious purposes,' she explains in the clip.

'But putting aside in the modern era, it's like, "Well why get married?", especially if you don't have some religious attachment to marriage.' 

Cece then explained that the government encourages couples to tie the knot because it pushes the responsibility of you onto your family instead of the government. 

'The government wants you to get married because it's a way for them to create private social welfare networks and make your family responsible for you, rather than have the government be responsible for you. 

According to The Heritage Foundation, marriage is beneficial to the government because it reduces 'its own role.' 

'A child born and raised outside marriage is six times more likely to experience poverty than a child in an intact family — and therefore welfare expenditures grow. So by encouraging the norms of marriage — monogamy, sexual exclusivity and permanence — the state is strengthening civil society and reducing its own role.' 

Being single let's you defy the 'made up' construct of the government while also helping you avoid the additional money stress that can come from tying the knot. 

However, in many ways, marriage can be more beneficial than remaining single. 

According to Charles Schwab, marriage has quite a few benefits for spouses, including eligibility for Social Security spousal and survival benefits. 

This means that as a married couple you're each eligible to collect your own social security benefit or up to 50 per cent of a spouse's benefit. 

Married couples can also file joint taxes and get a tax break, and can even transfer an unlimited amount of property to each other without worrying about or reporting gift tax.

Being married also means you and your spouse have more benefits when it comes to insurance and can save money on health, auto and home and long term care insurance. 

She added: 'The government wants you to get married because it's a way for them to create private social welfare networks and make your family responsible for you'

She explained she and her husband Nathaniel chose to tie the knot after having a conversation about the commitment of marriage

Despite her qualms about marriage, the former family lawyer revealed she herself is married.

'Putting that cynicism aside though, then that's also the beauty of it. 

'You and your partner can make it into whatever it means to you.' 

Cece explained she and her husband Nathaniel chose to tie the knot after having a conversation about what it meant to them. 

'So that's where Nathaniel and I landed, we realized marriage didn't mean the same thing to us as it did for our parents or friends. 

'But we talked it through and really thought about what kind of commitment we were making to each other and that was actually a really beautiful process.' 

Users flooded the comments section and agreed with the family lawyer, many claiming marriage was 'make believe'. 

Users flooded the comments section and agreed with the family lawyer, many claiming marriage was 'make believe'

One user said: 'Yes my husband and I discussed at length what marriage means to us before we got married and being on the same page is critical.' 

Another added: 'So good! My significant other and I refer to each other as husband/wife even tho we didn’t get married. We’re like, it’s all make believe anyway.' 

One user commented: 'Exactly. thank you!' 

'Thank you for this! I’ve been asking myself these exact questions and reading about the history of marriage to define it for myself,' said one user.