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Americans leave foreigners BAFFLED after insisting it is RUDE to say 'you're welcome' when thanked in a customer service setting... so, do you agree?

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The internet has been left fiercely divided over the right way to respond to someone saying 'thank you.'

A series of American content creators have made videos explaining to foreigners why they don't say 'you're welcome' in response to someone thanking them for a task - particularly in customer service situations.

According to many, replying with 'you're welcome' comes off as rude to many people, so they use alternative phrasing.

'It can sometimes feel a little passive-aggressive,' TikTok user Arjuna explained in a clip. 'It has this implication of, "I know, you should be thanking me."'

An Australian TikTok user said she was shocked by the how Americans respond to 'thank you' in a now-deleted video

An Australian TikTok user said she was shocked by the how Americans respond to 'thank you' in a now-deleted video

In response, some American creators explained many people think saying 'you're welcome' in response feels rude

In response, some American creators explained many people think saying 'you're welcome' in response feels rude

@superdesidrinks

i promise you americans are actually very polite !!! #usa #american #thankyou #yourewelcome #english

♬ original sound - Arjuna

Earlier in the year, Australia YouTube and content creator Georgia McCudden posted a now-deleted clip, reenacting an interaction she had with a server while visiting America.

In the clip Georgia reveals she said 'thank you' in response to a restaurant worker who gave her ketchup, with the server responding with: 'Mmhmm.'

Georgia was baffled over a server's response, taking to TikTok to rant about her experience.

'I was like, "I beg your f**king pardon,"' she said in the now-deleted clip. 'I'm sorry, I didn't know that was a big ask.'

Her TikTok sparked a debate over expressing - and responding - to gratitude. 

According to American creators, saying 'you're welcome' in response to issuing thanks is rude, presumptuous and a little outdated.

'It sounds like I'm forcing you to be thankful, or trying to one up you' a creator declared in response to Georgia's video.

Another stitched the video, saying the tone of the 'mmhmm' is vital to the message. 

'She wasn't trying to be rude at all, that's just her way of saying "you're welcome" or "no problem."'

Last year, an Australian TikTok creator questioned why Americans don't say 'you're welcome' after someone thanks them

Last year, an Australian TikTok creator questioned why Americans don't say 'you're welcome' after someone thanks them

He stitched the video and weighed in on the debate
He added: 'the explanation for both are equally valid'

Online creator Yuval Ben-Hayun explained neither are rude, and it's natural to think 'the way we naturally speak is the inherently more polite, or more efficient'

@yuvaltheterrible

You’re welcome? No problem? Turns out we’re all wrong. #english #language #linguistics #rude #etiquette

♬ original sound - Yuval

The comments about the topic were heated online, with people having firm opinions on the correct response

The comments about the topic were heated online, with people having firm opinions on the correct response

In Arjuna's clip, he said to many Americans, the response feels 'too strong of a sentiment, [and] a little passive aggressive.'

'It kind of has the mindset of, "oh yeah we just did something big for you so like you're welcome for this thing,"' he continued. 'It has this implication of "I know, you should be thanking me."'

In July, another creator Yuval Ben-Hayun sparked a similar conversation when he stitched a video with Georgia.

He pointed out that the vernacular terms differ from country to country - even in places they both primarily speak English.

'We like to think that the way we naturally speak is the inherently more polite, or more efficient, or smarter way of speaking,' he said in the clip. '[These feelings] all just really come from having to justify the way we speak because it makes us feel a little bit better.'

He added: 'The explanation for both are equally valid.'

Georgia isn't the first person to question Americans over their response to appreciation.

Last year, Australian TikTok user Tilly Hokianga said she was similarly shocked by the 'mmhmm' response she got from a server 

'Like, I just said "thank you," say, "you're welcome," or "all good," or "no worries,"' she said in disbelief. 

The comments about the topic were heated online, with people having staunch opinions on the correct response.

'Older generations using "you're welcome" as a passive aggressive way to remind us to say thank you permanently tainted it for all of us I think,' one user suggested.

'I always say "No problem!" You're Welcome feels passive aggressive also it's more friendly and casual,' added another.

'I view "you're welcome" as an acknowledgment that I was inconvenienced by what took place but it's okay. That feels aggressive,' was another opinion.

'I literally say you're welcome everyday,' confessed another. 'I do an occasional no problem.'

'"You're welcome" is SNOTTY,' declared one user. 'I say "No problem!"'

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