Woman is left devastated after her boyfriend 'BLOCKED HER' when she renewed her lease on her luxury apartment - instead of moving into his 'cheap' home

A woman has been left 'hurt and betrayed' after her boyfriend blocked her in response to her renewing the lease at a luxury high-rise apartment for which he had been covering more than half her rent.

By renewing the lease - without consulting him, no less - she'd put him on the hook to pay her living expenses for another year. 

And the 27-year-old woman had further broken their agreement that she find cheaper accommodations when her lease was up.

'My 24-year-old boyfriend blocked me for renewing my lease? What can I do to make things up to him?' the woman titled the post, shared to Reddit's r/relationship_advice forum.

A woman has been left 'hurt and betrayed' after her boyfriend blocked her in response to her renewing the lease at a luxury high-rise apartment for which he had been covering more than half her rent 

The boyfriend had been paying more than half the rent for her 'luxury' apartment for months - on the condition that when her lease was up she'd find something cheaper (stock image)

The pair had been together for three years, she described, adding that while she considers him a 'great person,' she would also consider him 'too frugal.' 

'He graduated with a degree in computer science, and has been making decent money since he graduated. When he graduated he used the FHA loan for a humble but small townhome,' she explained.

'I'm someone who differs in that I like the luxury. Last year I got a nice high rise apartment in a major metropolitan area, and signed a 14-month lease. With that my rent was $4,100 a month… Eventually with other bills I was not able to afford it', she griped.

'My bf's mortgage is really cheap because his place is extremely cheap,' she continued, adding it was a two-bedroom townhouse.

'My apartment is only a one bedroom but that's what you expect. You're paying for the view (it's near the top), the concierge, and the luxury experience,' she further explained.

At some point the in the previous year, she and her boyfriend had a talk 'because I needed his help.' 

He ultimately agreed to cover half of her 'luxury' apartment rent provided that, when her lease was up, she would 'either move in with him or get a cheaper apartment.'

'I could even stay in the same apartment [block] and switch to one of the cheaper ones,' she continued.

In hundreds of comments, other Reddit users collectively lambasted the girlfriend for her oblivious selfishness 

'I would have tried to move in with him but not at his place. He agreed that he could move but we still couldn't find a place that works for both of us because he's so cheap,' she pined. 

She then went on to say that she 'realized' they'd be 'getting married soon' - though it isn't clear that the boyfriend had proposed - 'so it's better to renew my lease and enjoy the high-rise nice luxury for one more year.

'I was dreading telling him but last night I told him. He was p***ed… he said "so you just expect me to pay half your rent again…" I told him well obviously.

'He said "have you considered I like nice things too but it's hard to do that when I'm sending you $2,500 a month…" He said "I would work with you if you were just bad at managing your personal finances and try to teach you..." He told me it's worse than that and that "I'm just selfish and trying to take advantage of him."'

'I was angry at him accusing me of just trying to take advantage of him, that's not true at f**king all,' she reasoned.

She then claimed that she does 'love him and the fact that he said that hurt.'

'He just hung up and blocked me everywhere. I'm going to head to his townhouse today so we can talk about this.'

She then implored Reddit for 'Any suggestions?' in how she should approach the conversation. 

In hundreds of comments, other Reddit users collectively lambasted the girlfriend for her oblivious selfishness.

As one wrote: 'So, you aren't able to pay your rent by yourself, you asked your boyfriend to save your a**, he did with the condition that you find a cheaper place or move with him. 

'You decided to renew the rent (that you can't afford) without telling him and you expect him to keep paying for half your rent? And somehow he's the one at fault and you are the one mad about the situation? You are kidding, right? This can't be real.'

A second echoed: 'Yikes … With all due respect OP... you come off as pretty entitled here. Shelling out $4,100 for a one-bedroom high rise apartment just for the luxury aspect of it is pretty telling. More telling is your bf paying for half of that, when you say yourself he is pretty frugal, and has a home. And you saying "well obviously" when he asked if you expected him to pay half of your rent again, for an extra YEAR. Which comes to $30,000. 

'Little wonder he blocked you quite frankly. And YOU have the audacity to feel hurt and betrayed. WOW,' they concluded, aghast.

A third chimed in: 'A lot of people reading this don't even make $50k a year much less have that to spend on just rent alone, so don't expect much sympathy. We are in the middle of a rent crisis here after all.

'Anyway, your boyfriend is entirely correct. I was prepared to take your side because couples should deal with problems rather than block their partners which is usually a manipulative act, but in this case, you found the one situation where he is completely in the right. Congratulations I guess.

'It's because you are relying on his contribution and expect him to be okay with that in perpetuity. If this is how you are with money now, I'm quite certain he's having second and third thoughts about marrying you. I'm not sure what advice you're expecting here.'

Another added: 'I would leave you too. You are just taking advantage of him. You are just using him for his money. You talked about getting rid of your apartment. Then didn't. You didn't even talk to him about keeping it. You are a liar. You are using him. You either cancel your lease. Stop stealing his money. Or walk away from this relationship now.'

A fifth didn't mince words in writing: 'The only way you can "make it up to him" is by canceling the lease. Your plan was to ask for forgiveness rather than permission. Well he isn't forgiving. You ARE using him and trying to avoid accountability by saying he "hurt your feelings." Well that pales in comparison to your financial exploitation and emotional manipulation. You deserve to be broken up with.'

Someone else pointed out: 'Have you considered that, as your ex boyfriend directly states, he also likes luxury but is just realistic about what can actually be afforded, unlike you who are spending way above your means?

'Clearly is way above your means if you need $30K a year in support from your boyfriend. Hope the building lets you break that lease to find a cheaper place before you go bankrupt and end up homeless.'

In a final update on her post, the renter was seemingly swayed to see the error of her ways, writing: 'Edit: I'm taking accountability and going to cancel the lease.'