Breakup recovery coach reveals simple 'self-soothing' technique that will help anyone to overcome heartbreak after a split

A breakup recovery coach has revealed the various 'self-soothing' techniques that she says can help anyone overcome heartbreak about a romantic relationship. 

Darlene Kollet is an expert at helping people recover from a case of the blues after a relationship ends. 

She frequently shares advice about how you can move on after getting your heart broken on her TikTok account, where she boasts over 249,000 followers. 

Most recently, Darlene took to the video-sharing platform to detail why regulating your nervous system while processing a breakup is crucial when it comes to healing - as she lifted the lid on the practices that can help you boost your happiness while mourning the loss of your relationship. 

A breakup recovery coach has revealed the various self-soothing techniques you should be practicing if you're trying to heal from heartbreak

Darlene Kollet is an expert at helping people recover from a case of the blues after a relationship ends

She captioned the viral video, which has so far amassed nearly 11,000 views, 'Learning to regulate emotions after a breakup.' 

'If you're going to get through a breakup, you need to become a master at self-soothing. 

'You have to know how to regulate your emotions every single day. You're going to want them to regulate your emotions for you - that's why we reach for the ex so much after a breakup, we can't do it ourselves, we don't know how to self-soothe,' she said at the beginning of the video. 

The coach noted that although its difficult during a breakup to find a 'moment to calm yourself down,' it's crucial to moving on. 

Darlene explained that there are many techniques you can use, but you must discover what works for you. 

She added: 'It's good to have a good cry, go out and exercise a little bit - physical activity is huge for that, deep breathing is huge for that. 

'So, start to figure out what works for you, what's going to calm you down, what is going to soothe you for just one single second, that's just all we need sometimes.' 

The heartbreak expert said that you must take your breakup 'one minute at a time.' 

People flooded the comments section and praised the breakup coach for her advice

She then listed out various self-soothing techniques you could try. 

'Call a friend, read a book, watch TV, go outside and go for a walk, meditate, pray, do whatever you can and see how it works for you,' she said. 

Then, the expert said that after finding the various things that work for you, make sure to 'stick to them' and practice them when you feel upset or angry. 

People flooded the comments section and praised the breakup coach for her advice. 

One person said: 'These videos are right on time for me…I’m riding the struggle bus.' 

Someone else wrote: 'I'm very dependent and this helps so much, thank you.' 

'Temporary people teach permanent lessons,' someone else said. 

Another person said: 'You’re so great! I try to find you everyday.'