Husband sparks furious debate after revealing he wants his wife to undergo THERAPY before he'll allow her to be alone with their kids - after her VERY concerning behavior left him fearing for his son's life

A man has left the internet divided after admitting that he wants his wife to seek therapy before he will allow her to be around their children alone. 

The unnamed husband and father took to Reddit to share the reasons behind his insistence that his wife undergo mental health care, detailing a particular incident that had left him concerned she was unable to properly look after their young twins.

'My (30M) wife (26F) gave birth to twins in October,' the man wrote in the Am I The A**hole subreddit.

'One boy and one girl,' he continued. 'Our son had lung issues at birth which is relevant to this.'

A man's instance his wife seek therapy has divided internet users, after he admitted he doesn't feel comfortable leaving her alone with their babies - unless she seeks help (stock image)

The man went on to explain that two weeks before he shared his post, their son had his first 'breath holding spell.' 

'For those who are fortunate enough not to know what they are, they are when a baby holds their breath out of fear or pain or shock,' he wrote. 

According to Mount Sinai it's not uncommon in young children, who, when they're faced with an upsetting situation or sudden pain can hold their breath which causes them to turn bluish or pale, and pass out. 

'Although this is alarming to parents, breath-holding spells are generally not harmful,' the site noted.

However, the man's wife was unaware of the condition, and was inconsolable when it happened.  

'When the breath holding spell occurred, my wife was distraught,' the dad recalled She didn’t know what to do and started having a panic attack herself.'

His wife managed to contact her father, who came over and watched their kids until she had calmed down.

'They then went to the ER and I met them there,' he recalled. 'My FIL [father-in-law] knew what was going on but my wife insisted on going to ER because of our son's lung issue.'

The dad said 'thankfully' their son is fine - however his wife has been not coping well with the scare. 

'Her anxiety has gotten a million times worse and since that incident she hasn’t been alone with the kids,' he explained. 'While I’m working, she usually spends the day with her parents and then I pick her up after work. 

'Her parents are fine with this because they adore her and the kids but I’m concerned that she’s no longer trusting herself as a mother,' he admitted.

'She has told me that she wants to start being by herself during the day again with the kids but I think she should have at least one therapy appointment before hand.'

Responses to the post were varied; with some slamming the man for his resistance to let his wife be alone with their kids, while others argued he was doing it out of concern

The concerned husband said her insomnia had gotten 'extremely bad' since the incident with her son, and she can’t be away from the kids without having another panic attack. 

'I’m worried about how she’ll manage alone but she thinks I'm an AH for suggesting that she can’t care for her own kids,' he said, asking 'AiTA?'

He later updated the post to clarify he doesn't think there is anything wrong with her reaction,  just that she is traumatized by what happened and needs to see someone.

Responses to the post were varied; with some slamming the man for his resistance to let his wife be alone with their kids, while others argued he was doing it out of concern. 

'That is EXACTLY as I see it also. In which case therapy could be helpful. I feel OP is acting out of concern not scorn,' one user wrote.

'NTA. She is a first-time mom with a child with health issues, it's normal to be nervous,' agreed another. 'While her reaction was extreme, and I agree she would benefit from talking to someone about it, if this is a one-time thing, let her try to work it out.'

'YTA you're completely undermining her as a parent which will only exacerbate her feelings of inadequacy,' another argued bac. 'She did what she needed to do when she was in crisis and now she's feeling better. Who are you to say she can't be alone with her own children?' 

Others chimed in with their own post partum experience.

'She’s probably so anxious and stressed that she doesn’t even feel like she has time for therapy,' one woman pointed out. 'I had a horrible experience like you did, and it took me years to seek help. It would be so beneficial for her to get a little help now rather than live in a constant state of fight or flight from trauma already incurred.'