Woman who married a prison inmate while he's serving a 30-YEAR sentence opens up about how they keep their relationship alive while he's behind bars - as she furiously slams trolls who insist he's just 'using her'

A woman who wed her husband while he was behind bars insists there's nothing strange about their unconventional marriage. 

Despite being in prison, Jay is happily married to his wife, Bleu, despite having a meet-cute that was more reality show than fairytale.

'I married my husband over the phone in prison,' Bleu shared in the YouTube series Love Don't Judge.

'We got married by proxy. We did our ceremony over the phone so he called in, we spoke, we did the ceremony, we said our own vows and then and voilà - we were married.'

Bleu and Jay (pictured) met in February 2022 through a mutual prison pen pal friend

Bleu explained she was introduced to her now-husband by a mutual friend of hers, who was writing to an inmate in the same prison pod as Jay

The couple - who proudly say they have a dominant-submissive relationship - were introduced to each other in February 2022 by a mutual friend, who had been writing to an inmate living in the same pod as Jay.

After a year of writing to each other via a prison pen pal service, the couple decided to tie the knot - a decision she's happy with despite the doubts from her parents, which she said caused a 'huge fight' between herself and her mom.

'I stand by my decision [to] marry him,' Bleu said, defending her decision, adding her husband has served 11 years in prison so far.

'He has to do 15 [years] in order to be eligible for parole which is going to be February 2028,' Bleu explained. 'If that is denied then every six months after that, he comes up - so there's no telling how much time he has.'

'I didn't grow up as a little girl and be like, "Oh I want to be with an inmate like that sounds so cool,"' the happily wedded woman said. 'When [our friends] introduced us I was not for it and I ended up falling in love with it.'

Bleu said as a bigger woman, she was nervous about Jay thinking she had catfished him - making sure to send photos of herself from evert angle, and he loved what he saw.

'I thought [our first meeting] was going to be awkward and it was the complete opposite,' she gushed. 'I just locked eyes with him for like five minutes it seemed like and even not touching him I could feel him.'

Bleu speaks with her husband several times a day on the phone, where they plan their future together - which includes three children and Bleu starting her own business. 

After a year of writing to each other via a prison pen pal service, the couple decided to tie the knot - despite Jay being sentenced to 30 years in prison and her parents disapproving

Bleu is happy with her decision to marry Jay despite the doubts from her parents, which she said caused a 'huge fight' between herself and her mom (pictured) 

Although Bleu was worried their first meeting was going to be awkward, she gushed it was 'the complete opposite.' Bleu is pictured here with Jay and his mother

Despite being happily in love, Bleu faces constant criticism from people when they find out she's married to a man in prison

According to Jay, they are able to maintain their relationship because 'no matter how what [they] find a way to overcome it' and 'know each other so well.'  

Despite being happily in love, Bleu faces constant criticism from people when they find out she's married to a man in prison.

'I get the normal stereotypes he's using you for the money; you have no self-respect; you're delusional,' she listed.

'I'm not naïve to the stereotypes,' she continued. 'I think that the only reason I get the criticism that I do is because I'm a bigger woman - because I've seen other prison wives and they're skinnier, prettier, more societally attractive.'

Bleu said they had rules in their relationships, which included: never discussing their arguments with anybody but each other, and not arguing in public and not going to bed mad.

Although Bleu didn't state what Jay had been imprisoned for, she said it likely 'saved his life.'

'It's not easy being a prison wife, it's not for the weak,' she admitted. 'If you want to hate on it and you want to talk about it do it, but it takes a strong strong person to deal with this lifestyle.

'At the same time, as long as it's with him I do it all over again.

'Just because it's him I doing this - I ain't f**king doing this again for nobody else but him.'