My wife had plastic surgery and I hate the way she looks now - it's completely ruined our sex life because I don't want to look at her

A husband has been defended after he revealed that he no longer finds his wife attractive after she got plastic surgery. 

The unnamed man took to Reddit to share that he now 'turns off the lights' during sex and tries to avoid looking at her after she had the 'fat sucked out of her face, lip fillers, a neck lift, other stuff.' 

He explained that after she came back from the procedure he was stunned to see her face so drastically changed and no longer desired her in a sexual way - prompting him to tell her, which caused issues in their marriage and even made his spouse walk out the door. 

In a thread titled, 'Am I the A**hole,' he questioned if he was in the wrong for telling his wife he was no longer attractive to her. 

A husband has been defended after he revealed that he no longer finds his wife attractive after she got plastic surgery (stock image)

At the beginning of the post, he noted that his spouse was convinced to get the surgery done by her mom and sister. 

Despite him disagreeing with them, his wife went ahead with the procedure.

The post read: 'My wife had plastic surgery recently. We had discussed it and I was against it. It was not my decision and ultimately I had no say.

'She looks weird now. She had the fat sucked out of her face, lip fillers, a neck lift, other stuff I don't really get.

'She gives me uncanny valley vibes now. It freaks me out. She is fully healed now and she wants us to go back to normal. Like me initiating sex. I have done so but not as much as I used to. And when I do I try and make sure there is very little light.

'It's been a few months and I kind of dread having to look at her. Obviously she has noticed. She has been bugging me to tell her what's up. I've tried telling her I'm just tired from work. Or that I'm run down. Really anything except for the truth.' 

He noted that his wife caught onto his behavior and then was sure that he was cheating on her. 

She even demanded to go through his phone, which he let her, however, she found noting tying him to an affair because he isn't having one. 

The unnamed man took to Reddit to share that he now 'turns off the lights' during sex and tries to avoid looking at her

Finally, the man decided to come clean about his feelings towards his wife.

He explained: 'She broke down and asked me if I was having an affair. I said that I wasn't. She asked to look at my phone. I unlocked it for her and handed it over. I wasn't worried about her finding anything because there is nothing to find. She spent an hour looking through it and found nothing. She asked me to explain why I changed. I tried explaining that I just wasn't that interested right now.

'Nothing I said was good enough for her. She kept digging. I finally told the truth. I wasn't harsh or brutally honest. I just told her that her new face wasn't something I found attractive and that I was turned off. She asked if that's why I turn off all the lights now. I said yes. She started crying and said that she needed time alone. She went to stay with her sister.' 

After revealing the truth, his wife stormed out of the house and left him with some choice words. 

He added: 'I have been called every name in the book since this happened. Her sister said I'm a piece of s*** for insulting my wife's looks. Her friends all think I'm the a**hole.' 

At the end of the post, he questioned if he was in the wrong for telling the truth. 

He added: 'I tried not to say anything. I can't force myself to find her attractive. I still love her but her face is just weird now.' 

People on the web flooded the comments section and ran to his defense. 

One person said: 'SHE. DID. ALL. OF. THIS. ....and still can't manage to take any personal responsibility or act like an adult about it.'

People on the web flooded the comments section and ran to his defense

Another user added: 'NTA, I think you handled the situation as well as you could, but there's a difficult conversation you and her need to have soon.'

Someone else wrote: 'NTA. It's not my thing, and I am very lucky that it's not my husband's thing, either. You discussed it, you voiced your concerns, she did it anyway as was her right. But choices have consequences and these are the consequences she actively chose, knowing how you felt. Freedom of choice doesn't mean freedom from consequences. She can't pretend to be all surprised Pikachu now (well, I mean I guess technically she could, but I'm not buying). And siccing her flying monkeys on you? Not cool.'

'NTA, it’s not your fault that you don’t find her new face attractive. That isn’t a conscience choice. I’m all for people doing what they want with their body, but if they are in a relationship and their partner states their dislike of the body modification, then that person should keep in mind the risk of doing it will be their partners lack of attraction.

Now do I think that you might have wanted to fess up on what was wrong much earlier? Absolutely,' wrote another person. 

Someone else added: 'NTA. Just as if she had gotten zombie face tattoos, she has the right to choose to undergo such things, but she also has to accept the consequences.

'You made your position clear in advance, it’s not like you pressured her to get it and then recoiled.' 

In the past, a man asked Jane Green for help after his wife got involved in a terrible car accident that left her with horrible injuries – and ultimately led to her leg being amputated. 

He noted that she now had a prosthetic leg and did physical therapy - adding that  it's been a rough few years for them, especially for her, but she's been pretty positive about her future and her 'new normal' as she calls it.

He then questioned if he be an a**hole if he divorced her and walked away. 

Jane noted that the man wouldn't be in the wrong if he separated from her. 

Another woman told Jane that her husband had transformed his dad bod into that of a gym buff and she was no longer attracted to him. 

Jane urged her to start a journey of loving herself.