My fiancée told all her friends that I'm not good at SEX - am I wrong for dumping her over it?

A husband-to-be has revealed how he found out his fiancé had once told friends that he was not 'the greatest at sex' - and now he wants to call off the wedding.

The 27-year-old man, believed to be in the US, took to Reddit's Am I Wrong thread to ask: 'My fiancée told her friend group that I am not the greatest at sex, but she is with me for the complete package. Am I wrong for calling off the engagement?' 

He went on to explain that he'd been with the fiancée, named Amy, 26, for five years.

They had been engaged for a year with the wedding slated for August - but after probing a mutual friend for gossip he is now having second thoughts.

The man, 27, took to Reddit 's Am I Wrong thread to ask: 'My fiancée told her friend group that I am not the greatest at sex, but she is with me for the complete package. Am I wrong for calling off the engagement?' 

He went on to explain that he'd been with the fiancée, named Amy, 26, for five years - but after probing a mutual friend for gossip he is now having second thoughts (stock image)

In the post, the man explained how a very close mutual friend, named Kiley, had known him since they were little, and he described them as 'almost like siblings.' 

Kiley, he added, is part of the same tight-knit group of friends that Amy is in. 

'I always try to ask Kiley what Amy tells about me, because I know women like to discuss about their boyfriends with their friend group,' he explained.

'Kiley is usually tight lipped but if she does say anything, she always says how Amy loves me a lot, and how Amy is so excited about marriage.'

However, that changed when he got 'pretty drunk' with Kiley and her boyfriend one night while Amy was out of town.

'Anyways, we all got pretty drunk and laughing a lot and I was begging Kiley to tell me one bad thing Amy has told about me to her friends. 

'After a lot of pleading, Kiley finally said that one thing Amy had joked about was how she had better sex before, and I was not the greatest at sex, but that she was with for me the complete package, because she doesn't care about sex too much,' he described.

While he was drunk, he'd managed to laugh it off. 'But I felt somewhat stung then,' he admitted.

Commenters widely agreed that the man had acted foolishly in pushing to hear about anything negative his fiancée had said about him to her friends 

By the time he had sobered up, the husband-to-be felt 'extremely stung,' he went on.

'I thought about it a lot and when Amy came back from her vacation, I asked her about it casually.

'She initially denied it, and said we always have amazing sex, and she's always satisfied.

'I told her it really wouldn't hurt me if she told me the truth, and marriage was built on honesty, so I asked her again a couple of times.

'Amy finally admitted that she did in fact say that I was not the best at sex to her friend group, but she was just joking about it, because I had so many other great qualities she wanted to highlight,' the man went on.

Again, he tried to laugh it off 'initially,' but felt even more hurt by the comment. 

'I couldn't hide my mood the next couple of days. I felt sad and felt like s**t.

'Amy apologized a lot, and said she did not mean what she said,' he continued.

But, as far as the man was concerned, the damage was done - and a couple of days late, he told Amy the relationship was over.

'What she told her friend group hurt me too much. I informed everyone over the next week that I was calling off the wedding. Amy was distraught, and tried to convince me multiple times and apologized a lot. But I was too mentally downtrodden,' he admitted.

He asked of Reddit: 'Was I wrong for calling off the engagement and breaking up with Amy?'

Commenters widely agreed that the man had acted foolishly in pushing to hear about anything negative his fiancée had said about him to her friends - and then not being able to emotionally handle the truth he'd been so determined to find out.

And with this, commenters suggested, he'd managed to ruin a relationship with a woman who'd truly loved him, regardless of the quality of the sex. 

'"I told her it wouldn't hurt me if she told the truth and that marriage was built on honesty"… Or maybe not,' one mocked.

'Give it to me straight. I promise I can handle it. Also, I'm so hurt I'm calling off the marriage,' a second snarked.

'Classic FAFO,' a third pointed out - with FAFO short for, 'F**k around and find out.' 

'Does it seem weird to anyone else that the OP is begging his friend to tell him bad things his fiancée is saying about him? I'm just trying to imagine that happening in real life. 

'If I thought my fiancée (now wife) had been saying bad things about me behind my back, I wouldn't have married her. This whole thing seems super weird,' another reflected.

Yet a fifth answered: 'Yes. You drunkenly kept pushing to hear bad news, then acted like a hurt child when you received what you wanted. '

'How is this famous sentence... Play stupid games, Win stupid prizes,' a sixth responded.

As someone else succinctly put it: 'Or, don't ask a question you don't want the answer to.'