I filed for divorce after learning my husband was spying on me with a hidden camera to prove that I'm lazy and worthless - but people say I'm the problem

A stay at home mother revealed she divorced her husband after he installed a hidden camera to spy on her to prove that she is 'lazy and worthless'.

The woman, who is from the US, took to Reddit to explain that she felt that her privacy had been violated so she kicked her husband out of the house.

However people were quick to point the finger at the woman, saying she was actually the problem. 

The mother-of-three explained the argument started when her husband, who was a 'high earner,' claimed that her organization skills weren't up to his expectations after their daughter missed a field trip. 

A week after the field trip incident, her husband, called her out for neglecting to mail checks out to his employees and admitted to installing a hidden camera were he saw her lying down and watching TV despite claiming to being busy.

A stay at home mother, from the US, revealed on Reddit that she divorced her husband after he installed a hidden camera to spy on her to prove that she is 'lazy and worthless' (stock image) 

The post read: 'It's been about a month since I found out my husband had put a hidden camera in our living room to "prove"' that I'm lazy and worthless.

'It was a small disguised camera hidden inside what looked like a charging block. 

'He stuck one in a living room outlet. We have three  kids who all have a bunch of chargers and such, so I did not suspect.

'The point my husband was trying to prove was that my administrative skills are not up to the Super stay at home mom standards he as a "high earner" deserves.'

The woman went onto explain how it all started with her daughter's permission slip for a class trip. 

She continued: 'I admit that things happened and we missed the submission deadline. I had made a note to fill out the forms on another day since it was a task I needed to be 100 per cent focused on. 

'But it became the start of a new month, and that's when I do most of the shopping and tracking of household bills/ subscriptions. 

'I do daily cleaning but we use a service for deep cleaning/ landscaping that I had to supervise.

'Long story short, my 16-year-old calls my husband after picking up her sister up saying she was crying because she can't go on her trip. 

'My husband drives to the school to beg them to let him fill the forms out in the office. Thankfully they let him since it was the same day. I apologized profusely.

She claimed her partner laid into her about her communications and bookkeeping skills. 

The woman explained that she felt that her privacy had been violated so she kicked her husband out of the house

She added: 'I yelled back because his work is concentrated while my work at home has a bunch of moving parts and emotional labor as well and I do it all behind the scenes. He digs his heels in about how I wasn't as busy and needed to do ' easy' things better.

'A week later he picks a fight about me not going that day to mail checks out to his employees when I could've done it the next day. 

'He admits to the camera and starts citing ' proof' of times I was on my phone and that automatically equals goofing off. 

'I was on my phone researching meals to fit my daughter's dietary restrictions while keeping her healthy as a ballet dancer. I was looking into subscriptions for frozen but healthy meals she and the rest of us could have on the go or at home.

'The fact he took offense to me occasionally lying down when I was researching, or that I had taken a TV break before preparing dinner did it for me. He knew that my days are crazy during the first days of the month, which was when the permission slip debacle happened. I kicked him out of the house. 

'It's been a month and friends have been saying that I'm missing the fact there are others out there who would not disregard the things I do to make being high earning possible. I ended up seeing an attorney and just filed for divorce because I feel violated and devalued. AITA? [Am I the A******?].

Many critics thought the mother should take accountability for her actions as they said her tasks were fairly low-maintenance

Many critics thought the mother should take accountability for her actions as they said her tasks were fairly low-maintenance.

One person wrote: 'The clincher for me is that your 16-year-old called her father instead of you to help her out of a jam that you created. 

'I’m not convinced you’re as reliable as you think you are. Divorce him if you want to but YTA [you're the a*****] on your parenting priorities.'

Another said: 'Describing filling out a permission slip as something you have to put off because it requires intense and uninterrupted focus is just wild.'

Someone else said: 'Right? You need 100 per cent focus for an entire day to sign out a child's permission slip forms? Work on your time management.' 

A fourth said: 'Also her 16-year-old does the school pickups for the younger kids! From this, I would imagine the oldest also does the morning drop-offs.

'I can completely feel the working partner’s frustration. If you can’t trust your spouse to be pulling their weight, it makes you nervous all the time. What else is slipping thru? She almost missed the deadline to mail out the paychecks to employees! 

'That would make me sweat. Loss of confidence in your spouse is hard to come back from.'