I am REFUSING to share my unborn baby's name with my sister after she STOLE my other choices and used them for her own kids

An expectant mother has questioned if she is in the wrong for refusing to share the baby name she chose with her sister. 

The unnamed mom-to-be, 38, took to Reddit to lift the lid on her estranged relationship with her 36-year-old sibling. 

She explained that she and her sister had become distant after her sibling used the baby names she had saved for herself for her own children. 

Now, in a Reddit thread titled, 'Am I the A**hole?', the mom-to-be has asked for social media user's advice after she declined her sister's request to reveal her baby's name in fear of her taking it again. 

An expectant mother has questioned if she is in the wrong for refusing to share the baby name she chose with her sister (stock image)

She explained that while she has struggled getting pregnant for over a decade, her sister hasn't had any problems. 

'I'm (38f) pregnant with my first, and probably only, child. My sister (36f) is also pregnant but this is her third child and this baby comes several years after her last child who is eight years old. 

'I struggled with fertility problems for many years. I could not get pregnant despite trying from the age of 24. 

'We underwent numerous tests but no clear reason for this was ever found. We tried taking breaks between trying, we tried fertility medications in recent years and finally, last year, we went through IVF which was successful for us,' she said. 

She noted that despite not having a baby, she has had monikers picked out for quit some time.  

She noted that when her sister gave birth and couldn't decide on her baby's name, she decided to use the monikers her sibling had chosen. 

'You might wonder what this has to do with the name of my baby. Well, let me explain. My husband and I had a boy and a girl name chosen from pretty much the time we started trying for a baby. These were names we promised to use whenever we had a baby, and we had planned to have at least 2 children. 

'Those names stayed "the names" throughout everything. But when my sister was pregnant with her first child, she and her husband struggled to agree on a name. She mentioned mine and my husband's chosen names once during my pregnancy and said how lucky we were to have agreed. 

The unnamed mom-to-be, 38, took to Reddit to lift the lid on her estranged relationship with her 36-year-old sibling

'Then when her daughter was born she decided to use the girl name my husband and I had chosen. And she confessed that is how the name was decided on. She said her husband liked our chosen name and she didn't think it was bad so she decided it would be better for them to use it so their baby could have a name. 

'She told me not to look upset (because admittedly I got emotional when she said this) and told me at least the name would be used. Then when her son was born she used the name we had chosen for the same reason; they couldn't agree on another name,' the mom-to-be said. 

Following that incident, the two sisters grew further and further apart until they no longer spoke. 

'She implied pretty strongly that she expected I would never have children to use the name for. Then a couple of years after her son was born she made the comment that we agreed so easily we could find another name if it worked, implying that we could not/should not use the names anymore,' she added. 

For her soon-to-be-born baby, the mom said she had mixed up the names she had originally chosen.

However, she revealed she refused to share them with her sibling. 

'We ended up mixing our boy choice and our girl choice for this baby. Both had a unisex name in them and we decided, since we loved all four names mixing them wasn't a huge change. My sister won't like this. But honestly, we don't see each other much anymore. 

'She only reached out more now because we're both pregnant at the same time and she has asked repeatedly about the name we have chosen. I have refused to tell her. But my two brothers know. They thought I should have used the original name as intended and give our sister the middle finger. But they also understand why we chose to mix them,' she wrote. 

At the end of the post, she questioned if she was being 'petty' for not disclosing the name with her sisters. 

People then flooded the comments section and ran to her defense as they slammed her sibling

People then flooded the comments section and ran to her defense as they slammed her sibling. 

One person said: 'NTA. Your sister needs to check her entitlement...She could not come up with meaningful names for her own children? She used the names you had your heart set on using, and justified it by saying "well it's not like you can use them". Does she have a history of being insensitive and tactless? I mean sure no one has entitlement to a name for their child, but you and your partner decided on those names and were going through hell trying to have a child together. She just swoops in and acts like she did you both a favor in using those names so they don't go to waste? She can't see how horrible and insensitive she has been?

'I'm with your brothers on this, but I am glad you and your partner are happy with your new choices. It's probably for the best they spend minimal time around their aunt and cousins. All the best with your new baby. Congratulations.'

Someone else wrote: 'Nope, I had the same thought, sister is not to be trusted.' 

'Please give her a fake name you would never want and have her steal that while you have this one safe,' added another person. 

Another user added: 'NTA and if she's due first I'd seriously consider telling her a fake name that you'd never want for your own kid just to see if she's gonna scoop you on that one too.'

One person wrote: 'NTA - not her business and I wouldn’t be surprised if she wants to use the name for her kid (or something similar).'  

'NTA. She stole your baby names before and will do it again. Also her comments about you being childless are straight disgusting. I wouldn’t even talk to her anymore. Baby names are so personal and private. My siblings never shared their baby names ever and nobody was ever pissed. It’s respecting privacy. Only my brother shared it once - with instant regret - because of stupid comments from his MIL,' another user commented.