Transgender husband and wife who've just welcomed a baby with their live-in girlfriend and all share one cramped bed reveal the tensions and strain their very modern family

A transgender husband and wife who've just welcomed a baby with their live-in biological female girlfriend revealed the tensions in their 'very modern family' as they share one cramped bed in a small Brooklyn apartment. 

A throuple consisting of a woman, a transgender man, and a transgender woman welcomed a son together on April 3, named Rochbert Joseph Ozymandias, or Rocco.

Grace Lavery, who was born male but now identifies as female, and her former agony aunt husband Daniel Lavery, who was born female but now identifies as male, started dating back in 2018, when they were both in the midst of transitioning.

They tied the knot one year later, but in 2021, the couple, who live in Brooklyn, New York, decided to add a third person to their romance: a woman named Lily Woodruff. 

Their living arrangements and close working proximity have led to some tension - with Danny and Lily having their first proper fight over recycling in December.

In a candid conversation with The Cut, Danny admitted to being a 'd***' at times, with he and Lily a little on tiptoes around each other.

Grace Lavery, Daniel Lavery, and Lily Woodruff live in Brooklyn, New York

The throuple recently announced the birth of their son Rochbert Joseph Ozymandias

Grace was born male but now identifies as female and Daniel was born female but now identifies as male. Their living arrangements and close working proximity have led to tensions. Their first fight over recycling (They're seen at their 2018 wedding)

Grace and Lily had become intimate first after meeting online a year on from Grace and Danny's wedding, The Cut reported.  

'There were ways in which I still felt like you and I would sometimes be on our 'company manners' around each other,' Danny as he explained his relationship with Lily. 

'I think the outcome has been really positive,' Lily said. 

'I'm really sorry we had to go through my being a d***,' Danny added. 

Their nightly routines vary, with one partner retiring early for teeth brushing while the others enjoy a late meal before eventually settling into bed together. 

Danny told The Cut he brushes his teeth by 8:30 pm while Lily and Grace will often have a meal at about 10 pm. Then Danny will climb into bed about midnight. 

Danny described the household as 'lesbian dominant,' but explained that it's not about asserting dominance but acknowledging their shared background and experiences within lesbianism. 

'I don't mean that in the sense of we're dominant lesbians,' he told The Cut. 'I just mean we all have enough of a background in lesbianism and the processing of the lesbian school, which not all lesbians do, or have to do, or should do, but which does exist. I think we all like it.'

Their living arrangements and close working proximity have led to tensions. Their first proper fight was over recycling 

Grace previously revealed that Lily was expecting back in December, describing their impending arrival at the time as 'the gayest baby in the tri-state area'

Grace and Daniel started dating back in 2018, when they were both in the midst of transitioning, and tied the knot one year later. They're seen left in 2018 and right recently

The throuple anticipate that their son may one day notice the uniqueness of their family dynamic, particularly as they all live and work closely together in a one-bathroom apartment. 

Danny said: 'There will absolutely, I'm sure, come a day when our son is like, 'I went over to someone else's house and they don't f****** do this all day. I didn't know you could live with such beautiful quiet. Maybe that will be one of the ways in which heterosexuality will reintroduce itself back to our home.' 

The group also discussed how they would afford to stay in New York with a baby, which involves writer Danny 'getting a day job', The Cut reported.  

Grace shared the news about their newborn back in early April via Instagram, writing, 'Friends. Allow me to introduce you to Rochbert Joseph Ozymandias. Rocco to you lot.

They dubbed the newborn as the 'gayest baby in the Tri-State area' at the time. 

'His consciousness was joined with the flesh of the world at 7am this morning, April 3rd, at which point he weighed eight pounds and five ounces.

'He has blue eyes, grippy fingers, a laissez faire attitude to pronouns, the gentle aroma of late summer plums, a sleepy smile, and a sweet soft temperament befitting one of his undoubted rank and stature. 

'He is the greatest human being I've ever met. His father, Daniel, and his Lala, Lily, share my exuberance. Hail Rocco. We will try to remember for you and learn with you.'

Grace previously revealed that Lily was expecting back in December, describing their impending arrival at the time as 'the gayest baby in the Tri-State area.'

Danny, who's admitted to being a 'D***' said: 'There were ways in which I still felt like you and I would sometimes be on our 'company manners' around each other' 

'Friends, I have some exciting news: we're having a baby,' she gushed while sharing a snap of Lily cradling her baby bump.

'Among the many exciting elements of this boon has been the opportunity to watch my partners, whom I love so deeply, become a mom and dad - Lily visibly, and all of us with gladdened and inspired hearts.

'Keep our multilateral parenting squad in your hearts and vibes until early April ... We look forward to introducing you soon to the gayest baby in the Tri-State area.'

The throuple often document their relationship online, where they've racked up a joint 28,000 followers.

Many of their followers flooded the post with their happy reactions.

'So excited for yall. Watching y'all's relationship flourish and blossom has been so beautiful,' one person wrote.

Daniel Lavery said he brushes his teeth by 8:30 pm while Lily and Grace Lavery will often have a meal at about 10 pm. Then Danny will climb into bed about 12am

'Sending all you the best energy as you transition to becoming parents and growing your family.'

'Congrats on the addition to your family. I hope all parental units are doing well and that everyone is getting quality bonding time,' said someone else.

Another user added, 'Thank you for creating a beautiful example of a family in our modern times. 

'May you all have an amazing transition into parenthood, with all of the positive vibes for sleeping, eating, general baby things etc. to come.'

Daniel, a writer, previously spoke out transitioning at the same time as his partner Grace.