My neighbour can't tolerate my baby's crying and says I should seek help to get her to stop - some people say he's a bully, but others are on his side

A woman has revealed her stress after a neighbour complained about her sick nine-month-old daughter's crying.  

Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the anonymous woman explained that the neighbour recently knocked on her door disgruntled, saying his sleep is suffering because of the noise.

The infant had previously been admitted to hospital with a high fever, which was later diagnosed as a viral infection, and has been crying throughout the night.

The 'exhausted' mother said she is 'personally in shock' that the neighbour has complained and asked whether she is being 'unfair'.

Many rushed to the comments to show support to the new mother, with some saying her neighbour sounds like a 'bully'

A woman revealed on Mumsnet that her childfree neighbour complained because her sick nine month old daughter won't stop crying (stock image)

The post read: 'Looking for a little bit of advice. I have a 9 month old little girl who was born with Strep B. She was extremely poorly at birth and spent a week in ICU. We were so very lucky that she made a full recovery and thankfully has no lasting effect from the infection.

'However, since starting nursery 3 months ago, she has been constantly poorly. She’s had every cold, cough and runny nose and hasn’t been sleeping great at night. 

She continued: 'This last week, my little one has been to the doctors twice and admitted to hospital with an extremely high fever which we now know is a viral infection. Seeing her so poorly is heartbreaking and we as parents are doing our very best.

'Which leads me to what other mums think to the below. My neighbour knocked on my door this morning, for reference they have no kids so they don’t understand. 

'However after being awake every hour in the night with my poorly baby who keeps getting temperatures of 39 +, already emotional and exhausted. He proceeds to complain about her crying and keeping him and his wife awake. 

'He then told me to seek support and now I feel like the worlds worse mum because my poorly baby is crying in the night! 

'I admit that she has been crying a lot however I am doing everything in my power to help her, she’s started sleeping with me again so I can get to her as soon as I hear her murmur. I’m personally in shock, as I would never complain about a neighbours baby crying. But I’d like to know what other mums think and if I’m being unfair?!'

People took to the comments to leave their own thoughts, with some saying he is a 'miserable a*****.' 

Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet , the anonymous woman explained that the neighbour recently knocked on her door disgruntled because he can't get any sleep

Many rushed to the comments to show support to the new mother, with some saying her neighbour sounds like a 'bully'

The mother thanked everyone for their kind comments and said they were reassuring 

One person said: 'What does he expect you do? He is a stupid bully, he should be commiserating not playing the big I-am. I would have looked at him, raised an eyebrow and closed the door.

'Be very thankful that you are not him and get on with your life. Your Baby will get better, he is likely to always be an a.hole.'

Another said: 'I don’t think anyone likes being kept up for any reason but a baby crying because she is poorly can’t be helped it’s not like yours leaving her lying crying and not soothing her. You must be tired and exhausted too and you’re not the worst mum just a tired one!

'We’ve all been there when our babies are sick unfortunately your neighbours haven’t and clearly don’t understand or care and would rather make you feel bad. not much advice to give op, but hope your baby is feeling much better soon and you get some rest.'

Someone else said: ' What does he and other people on the post think you're supposed to do, smoother her, gag her???? 

'Ffs, it's a 9 month old, and if you've had kids, you'll understand and get that it's not an easy stage at the best of times - especially when they're poorly and their only way of communication is crying. Honestly this boils my blood, cos it's not like your blaring music to all hours of the night, it's a fecking baby crying cos she's ill.'

'Ignore him, he sounds like a miserable a*****, keep doing what you are doing. Stay strong and I hope baby gets better soon.'

The mother added: 'I was very took back that he even had the audacity to knock on the door and complain to me especially after I’m stood there tears rolling down my face completely exhausted! I understand it must be hard but it’s hard for me and her dad too. Thank you so much for making me see that I’m not going completely insane and I have a fair point!' 

Meanwhile others thought maybe the neighbour was trying to be kind when he mentioned she might 'need support.'

Meanwhile others thought maybe the neighbour was trying to be kind when he mentioned she might 'need support'

One person said: 'He might think you're just leaving the baby to cry in the cot like some mums struggling to bond etc do and meant support for that?

'Depending on the way he said it either explain and reassure that you and baby are fine and baby has seen the doctor when unwell and you're holding her when she cries, or if he seemed to just be angry and venting just leave it and if he brings it up again tell him obviously you're trying to comfort her but unwell babies cry, but you understand that he doesn't have experience with babies'

Another said: 'Be understanding. They are also sleep deprived. They are entitled to yo a good night's sleep in their own home. 

'You can't help having a poorly baby. Perhaps they were being helpful suggesting you need support...you do! A crying baby is so difficult when you need sleep. Can a parent help out?

'Maybe go round with a bottle of and some ear plugs. Say shes really poorly and you are really trying. You have had no sleep either so you understand how exhausted they are.'

Meanwhile another said: 'I get why you're upset and you can't do a great deal about it. Babies will cry and you can't do a great deal about it. I understand you were upset with how he handled things but I don't think anyone is particularly at fault here. Do you think you could have handled this a little better? Perhaps popping a card and a bottle wine round to say sorry for the noise and that you appreciate them baring with you?'