Camila Cabello's dating coach ex Matthew Hussey issues warning about the toxic 'red flags' that so many women IGNORE - simply because a man presents himself as a 'good guy'

Camila Cabello's dating coach ex-boyfriend Matthew Hussey has revealed the red flags that are often hiding in good guys, as he lifted the lid on the toxic traits women sometimes ignore.

The 36-year-old British life coach and YouTube personality - who dated Camila from 2018 until 2019 - has made a name for himself as a love guru. 

However, the author of the upcoming ultimate guide to healing titled, Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What), wasn't always a pro at dishing out relationship advice. 

In an excerpt shared from his new book, which is was released today, Matthew laid bare the red flags he once exhibited and got away with because he presented himself as a 'good guy.'

Camila Cabello's dating coach ex-boyfriend Matthew Hussey has shared the red flags that are often hiding in good guys. His new book is released April 23

 The 36-year-old British life coach and YouTube personality - who dated Camila from 2018 (pictured) until 2019 - has made a name for himself as a love guru

At the beginning of a chapter titled, Red Flags, Matthew explained that all the information out there regarding toxic traits could be 'both confusing and overwhelming.' 

'Once you start scrolling through this catalog, you can forget that people, are just people, flawed, prone to making mistakes,' the relationship and life coach said. 

Matthew then detailed the list of red flags and what ignoring them could mean for your future. 

The relationship guru first noted that talking poorly about all of your exes could be a toxic trait to watch out for. 

He explained that this didn't include those who have 'disastrous exes.'  

'But then you run into someone who says that "all my exes are a**holes" or "crazy." With such a person, one of two things is true. Either they're someone who can’t take responsibility for all the ways they can be hard to deal with, and so instead of looking at the traits they need to change, they'd rather turn the conversation to the ways someone else was awful to them (People do the same thing when they're fired from a job),' Matthew wrote.

'The second possibility: They're someone whose exes truly were extremely toxic people — because that is precisely the kind of people they're drawn to! The first person will turn on you at the first sign of conflict, and you'll wind up as the latest example in their litany of "crazy exes."

'The second person will test you to see if you can become — or if they can turn you into — the kind of crazy that turns them on, feels comfortable to them, or the kind of crazy they need to reject, just to feel good about themselves. If you don't want to be part of their drama — and that is the healthy reaction — they'll call you boring, or find you threatening, and likely hurt you before moving on to someone who will play that role for them.' 

Matthew lifted the lid on the red flags he once exhibited and got away with because of how he presented himself as a 'good guy'

At the beginning of a chapter titled, Red Flags, he explained that all the information out there regarding toxic traits could be 'both confusing and overwhelming' (seen in 2018 with Camila)

Next, the relationship pro explained that you should look out for the people who treated their friends, family, or even strangers poorly when you weren't around. 

'We all know to carefully observe how people treat someone they believe isn't useful to them, especially when that person is just doing their job: the waiter or barista, the valet parker, the senior citizen in customer service,' he added.   

'But good reviews here can't always be trusted: Maybe your date was aware of you watching. As long as there's an audience, it's still a performance. The real test is how they treat people when they don't think, or have forgotten, that you're even there.' 

Matthew said that you didn't want to see their mistreatment of others as a 'soft spot for you.' 

The popstar's ex shared that love-bombing was another common tactic used by manipulators and it could often be put in place as early as a first date. 

He explained that 'extraordinary dates' often have nothing to do with you and everything to do with the love bomber. 

Although everyone has a longing to feel special, being overwhelmed with affection after one cup of coffee, can usually point to your date attempting to bombard you with love in hopes of hiding their own faults.

Next, the relationship pro (seen with his wife, Audrey) explained that you should look out for the people who treat their friends, family, or even strangers poorly when you aren't around

He shared the consequences of ignoring red flags. Pictured is Camila with the relationship expert in 2019

Matthew revealed that a good way to know whether someone was love-bombing you was to ask yourself if you were matching their energy.

He added: 'Patience, restraint, and the ability to delay one's urges can be solid signs of someone who values the relationship they are looking for over the immediate experiences that their heart (or any other part of their anatomy) wants to have. 

'If someone has no interest in your carefully expressed desire to move at an organic pace or shows no shame in showering you with proclamations of love in ways that seem disconnected from your reactions, beware.'

Other red flags that the love expert advised people being cautious of were never apologizing, and constantly not keeping both big and small promises.

He noted that someone who didn't say 'sorry' would have you in a cycle of never-ending arguments, while someone who didn't keep their word, even when it comes to smaller things, would leave a 'pathway to emotional abuse.' 

Lastly, the expert said that someone who was inconsistent in their communication would often be putting in more of an effort with another person and would try their hardest to keep you in their life by bread crumbing you - when one person engaged the other without any intention of dating, despite how hard they tried to pull away. 

Before diving into the costs of ignoring these warning signs, Matthew admitted that he was 'guilty of all of these.' 

He shared that the consequences of ignoring red flags included, 'being left abruptly,' 'winding up in an abusive relationship,' and wasting your life 'in a situation where their long-term intentions are not aligned' with yours.