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Stay-at-home-daughters is often used a quirky description for a young woman who can live a lavish lifestyle off her family's wealth rather than get a job of her own - but it turns out, the term has a much darker meaning.
Ashley Easter, who grew up in what she described as a 'cult within a cult within a cult within a cult' and was labeled a 'demon' when she was younger, recently revealed how vulnerable women end up forced into submission - and that it starts from birth.
'Stay at home daughters were basically unmarried adult women who continued to submit to their fathers until he gave them away in marriage to another man,' Ashley explained to host Shelise Ann Sola on the YouTube channel Cults to Consciousness.
She continued: 'They would then submit to [their husband] for the rest of their life, say yes to sex, have all their babies.'
Ashley Easter grew up in what she described as a 'cult within a cult within a cult within a cult' and was labeled a 'demon' when she was younger
She explained that vulnerable women end up forced into submission - and that it starts from birth
Ashley, who was apart of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Church (IFB), explained that the group want to continue their '200-year plan' until the world is populated with their 'very patriarchal religious views.'
She described the moment she knew her 'body wasn't safe' - recalling her grandfather buying a white carnation and placing the stem in red food coloring before watching it change color.
'That was a symbol of my change into being a submissive girl, and that moment did change my life,' she recalls.
Ashley, who grew up in Lynchburg, Virginia, said from that moment on she knew what could happen if she stepped out of line.
'I knew now what could happen [if] I was too rebellious, you don't deserve anything good and that it can be snatched away in a moment and that as a woman you don't have power in this and if you're going to survive you've got to submit eventually,' she listed.
Both of Ashley's grandfathers were pastors within the IFB church - one in the North and one in South in Virginia, and she grew up in one of the most strict Christian churches.
'We actually kind of looked at Southern Baptists and people like from Liberty [Baptist Church] or from Thomas Road [Baptist Church] as liberal,' she admitted.
'We thought they're probably Christians but they weren't good Christians because we were so much more strict.'
Ashley, who was apart of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Church (IFB), explained that the group want to continue their '200-year plan' until the world is populated with their 'very patriarchal religious views'
According to Ashley, the major difference between IFB and Southern Baptists is the structure of the church, with Southern Baptists more apart of a larger corporation, while the IFB churches are run very independently
According to Ashley, the major difference between IFB and Southern Baptists is the structure of the church, with Southern Baptists more a part of a larger corporation, while the IFB churches are run very independently.
'So, just Southern Baptist but much more extreme,' she surmised.
She also said the Southern Baptist churches allow women to lead some groups, while that would never happen in IFB churches.
Within the church, Ashley said the dress code enforced differed from family to family - describing it as 'creepy' because the fathers usually set the dress code.
'One father might be more of a boob guy than a leg guy, and you can almost kind of insinuate that by how their daughters are allowed to dress,' she shared.
Ashley, who described her experience growing up as a mix between Shiny, Happy, People with the Duggar family and Let Us Prey, divulged that the men had so much control it even filtered down to the types of music they could listen to.
'We were allowed to listen to hymns and southern gospel,' she shared, adding the only secular music she listened to growing up was The Beach Boys because her dad loved them.
Ashley explained there were several 'movements' within the church, including homeschooling, the patriarchy movement and something called the 'quiverful movement,' which is a guise for reproducing as much as possible.
'Many people did not use birth control, I personally know of people who almost died in childbirth but kept having children,' she recalled.
'It's basically this idea of domination through overpopulation,' she pointed out.
Ashley added some of the abuse she suffered in her church and family is 'all very predictable from the outside,' but when you're on the inside, she thought it was what 'good Christians do'
Ashley added some of the abuse she suffered in her church and family is 'all very predictable from the outside,' but when you're on the inside, she thought it was what 'good Christians do.'
'You don't see a lot of other examples and the ones that you do see they're painted as being rebellious or as being lesser of Christian,' she added.
'They try to indoctrinate you [by saying] women need protection from men and so we're doing this great service by telling them what to do and controlling their lives because men are the protectors,' she said.
As Ashley got older, she said she started to realize that something wasn't right.
'The patriarchy is a system of abuse, and it is a system of abuse because it systemically places men over women for the purpose of power and control,' she pointed out.
Ashely said her religious suffering began when she was in the womb and continued for as long as she can remember.
She was later told that her mom had been unwell when she was pregnant and then Ashley herself was unsettled as a child - so the group thought she had a demon inside of her.
'Even before out of the womb they're already attributing evil happening because of your presence,' she said.
According to Ashley, being rebellious is 'like the sin of witchcraft.'
'Witchcraft is alliance with the devil and alliance with the devil gets you thrown into hell,' she explained.
When Ashely was four, her parents sent her to live with her grandparents because she was 'too much to handle' and it was there that she was locked in the basement for hours.
Ashely said her religious suffering began when she was in the womb and continued for as long as she can remember
Ashley said her breaking point came in her early 20s, after she broke off an abusive engagement and befriended someone who briefly attended her church, who encouraged her to talk to other Christians about their lives which made her realize how oppressed she was
In the end, she started to believe in the oppressive system and began living by the rules the men in her life were setting for her - even writing a blog in her teen years about being a perfect submissive 'stay-at-home-daughter.
'I kind of internally decided if I'm going to survive this I have to be able to work within this system,' she reasoned. 'If I'm not allowed to preach well I can sing, if I'm not allowed to teach I can write, if I can't teach men I can write a blog to women.'
Ashley said her breaking point came in her early 20s, after she broke off an abusive engagement and befriended someone who briefly attended her church, who encouraged her to talk to other Christians about their lives.
She was introduced to a man who was curious about her religion and would ask her questions, leading her to do more research about other facets of Christianity.
'The more I research the more I was like "oh my god what is happening,"' she recalled.
Ashley eventually told her family she didn't believe in the IFB's teachings, which lead to a long discussion but ultimately saw her distancing herself from the group.
She met and married her husband in 2015, with her family attending the wedding but describing a feeling of relief when they were finally alone.
'He gave me this place to grow and therapy and encouraged me and believed in me,' she gushed.
Ashley recently gave a TEDX talk about her experience growing up, saying her best piece of advice is to trust your own intuition.
'You know, if you are listening to your gut it's going to lead you in the right path,' she advises.