Woman, 28, left furious after discovering her husband paid for her $8,000 engagement ring out of their JOINT bank account

A woman has been left furious after discovering her husband paid for her $8,000 engagement ring out of their joint bank account.

The unnamed bride took to Reddit's popular Am I The A**hole thread to unravel the details of the lovers' tiff.

She asked whether she was in the wrong for 'demanding my husband returns my engagement ring to the store because he is making me pay for it through our joint account.'

Readers were left bitterly divided in the comments - but what do you think?

The unnamed bride took to Reddit's popular Am I The A**hole thread to unravel the details of the lovers' tiff 

In the post, which was shared earlier this week, the disgruntled wife launched straight into detailing the tensions.

'My 30-year-old husband and I have been married for just under three months and have been having a huge argument about my engagement ring.

'We got married one month into him proposing to me. It wasn't a fancy wedding and we had our honeymoon right after we signed the papers at the courthouse. He gave me a diamond engagement ring that's close to $8K - a two-carat lab diamond. 

'He didn't have funds available readily as we are saving for a home so he put this ring on a payment plan.'

She continued: 'I found out after we married and merged our finances that he has been withdrawing funds from our joint account (we make roughly the same) to finance this ring. 

'I was just taken aback and honestly put off by the fact he is making me pay for a GIFT he gave to me.

'We have been having some arguments lately and he feels that ring is a wedding expense and it's only fair that I contribute towards it too, and that as a woman of this day I shouldn't hesitate to be an equal partner. I call bulls**t and shared my thoughts on this whole thing.'

The woman then did not hold back in airing her grievances with the request.

She asked whether she was in the wrong for 'demanding my husband returns my engagement ring to the store because he is making me pay for it through our joint account' (stock image)

'First, you don't make the recipient of a gift pay for the damned gift. An engagement ring is considered a gift in most modern societies even today and I don't care if you disagree with that it's just what the cultural expectations are and we never discussed if he had any issues with that. 

'MAYBE if he was an adult enough, I would've had a discussion about how it makes him feel and see if his values about tradition align with mine. 

'Second, I've unintentionally partially paid for two instalments now which makes me a part-owner of the ring.

'If I knew my husband was going to be making me pay for the ring, I wouldn't have agreed to "buy" it. Mutual consent is essential when a couple is deciding to invest in an asset. 

'Owning a house or a car jointly requires two "yeses" and I wouldn't certainly have said yes to jointly owning a ring he was SUPPOSED to give to me as a gift. 

'So I can retroactively decide now I never wanted to own it and have been demanding that my husband returns the ring to the store if paying for the ring hurts his pocket so much.'

The wife then added further clarification adding: 'I've always wanted a nice ring and I'm not going to apologize about it since we never had a real wedding party and I knew I deserved a quality piece symbolizing our love. 

'However my then fiancé also knew about the expectation I had of him and was upfront about things from the get go. He could've discussed things with me like I mentioned earlier in my post and we could've seen if we were truly compatible like that. 

'What I didn't know was that he was plotting to "get even" with me by taking out a payment plan and using our funds to finance it.'

The Reddit post was soon flooded with comments with readers locked in fierce debate - and on the one hand, some users agreed that she was in the wrong 

She concluded: 'This caused him to flare up and he berated me for being sexist towards him. I put my foot down not because I can't afford it or I refuse to financially contribute or give my husband a nice gift, but my husband's sheer stubbornness and tackiness about wanting me to pay is what pisses me off. 

'I don't mind splurging for him, but this whole situation has left a very bad taste in my mouth.

'He expects me to apologize to him because I called his actions tacky and decisions scammy and in bad faith. Am I the a**hole?'

The Reddit post was soon flooded with comments with readers locked in fierce debate.

On the one hand, some users agreed that she was in the wrong as someone wrote: 'YTA. "Expectations... I knew I deserved... I wanted... I won't apologize...' So he makes the same as you - money all goes in the same account but you say you're paying for it?

'How so if he makes the same? And yeah, if you want something so expensive, and he had to finance it, then it wouldn't hurt to help a little since you deserve it and all. 

'JFC, it truly sounds like your husband is in for a long, bumpy ride. I wish him well.'

'My 30-year-old husband and I have been married for just under three months and have been having a huge argument about my engagement ring,' she dished (stock image) 

But, on the other hand, there were some who thought the woman made a good point as one person wrote: 'NTA. Return both the ring and the husband' 

A second person commented: 'YTA. Being married, if it came out of the joint account, or not, you would have been paying for it. You are a team now. You should be mad that he bought a ring the two of you can't afford.'

Another added: 'YTA. You're married, there is no "my money," and "his money" now in the way, you mean. 

'Money he spends towards the debt for the ring is money that can't be spent on other things for your lives together. You wanted an expensive ring - they aren't free.'

But, on the other hand, there were some who thought the woman made a good point.

One person wrote: 'NTA. Return both the ring and the husband.'

A second person commented: 'NTA. Making someone pay for their own gift is tacky. 

'And if he couldn't afford to pay for the ring on his own, then he should have said something before he bought the ring, not secretly start making you pay for half of it. If I were you I'd separate your finances quickly.'

Another urged: 'NTA. Rethink this relationship with both financial and communication issues three months in.'