Woman sparks fierce debate after revealing she only wants to take her biological child to Disney - insisting her boyfriend can pay for her step kids

A woman has sparked fierce debate after revealing she only wants to take her biological child to Disney - insisting her boyfriend can pay for her step kids.

The unnamed mom, from the US, took to Reddit's popular Am I The A**hole thread to candidly detail her dilemma.

The 31-year-old explained how she had been left in quite the predicament due to her partner's unstable financial situation. 

Readers were left bitterly divided in the comments - but what do you think? 

The unnamed mom, from the US, took to Reddit's popular Am I The A**hole thread to candidly detail her dilemma 

The mom began by explaining that she shares a two-year-old daughter with her boyfriend but that he has two other kids, aged nine and eight, from a previous relationship.

She wrote: 'I am the bread winner due to him not being able to keep the good jobs. 

'We lost our rental a couple of months back due to his lack of financial responsibility. (I did not know he wasn't making payments towards certain bills therefore, me paying for everything plus playing catch up became too much.) 

'During these past couple of months we have been living with his parents, and our goal was to pay off our debt. Well, I've caught up on nearly $10,000 on debt while he's been able to only pay off $500. 

'I do give him grace knowing he doesn't make much money, however, I know he has no other payments other than his phone and daycare. Therefore, paying a little extra towards debt should not be an issue.'

The exasperated woman continued: 'Anyway, this summer, I really wanted to take a trip out to Disneyland. I told him about us going as a whole, he agreed. 

'Well as it gets closer, he's now saying we don't need to go, it's going to be too hot and too packed. 'The little one won't remember, the older kids aren't that into Disney anymore' which he tends to do this type of tactics when he realizes he can't financially do it.

'I have no issue doing 50/50 but that's where he won't meet me half way. He would rather no one go.'

The 31-year-old explained how she had been left in quite the predicament due to her partner's unstable financial situation (stock image)

Seeking advice from readers, she concluded: 'So my question is, would I be the a**hole if I decide to make it a trip with just my biological kid and I? And him pay his way if he can afford it? 

'I hate this situation but I am a firm believer in not letting my kid lose out on experiences if others aren't willing to do that for them. This is why I work so hard, so she will never miss out on anything and have everything she wants and needs.'

And the Reddit post was soon flooded with comments with readers left bitterly divided.

On the one hand, there were many users that argued the woman was indeed in the wrong.

One person wrote: 'Let me get this straight... you, your under achieving boyfriend, and three kids are living with his parents and you think going to Disney is a smart choice? YTA.

'Take the Disney money and put a deposit on an apartment for you and your daughter.'

A second person commented: 'YTA. It would be 100 per cent fine to only take your bio kid, if you were separated from your boyfriend.

'However, you can't date, live with, and have a baby with a man with two kids and then treat the kids unequally. That will only build resentment, which will make your life harder in the long run.'

On the one hand, there were many users that argued the woman was indeed in the wrong 

Another wrote: 'YTA. You daughter NEEDS a house. She isn't even old enough to know if she WANTS a trip to Disneyland. 

'Take the money you would spend on vacation and go get some housing, preferably without your financially unstable boyfriend.'

Someone else dished: 'YTA. You guys are a family unit. If your boyfriend is not pulling his weight financially for the family, you don't punish the kids. And to add, why are you taking a trip to Disney if you have financial and housing issues?!'

But, on the other hand, there were those that argued she was in the wrong as one person commented: 'NTA: Oh honey. It's been two years of this. He's not going to change.

'I get that you want to be with him and it's not unreasonable to want to live separately. 

'But keep hard boundaries and don't allow him a key. If you have your debt paid off and can afford your own place, security deposit/ first three months bills payment in your savings, I say do a vacation. 

The mom began by explaining that she shares a two-year-old daughter with her boyfriend but that he has two other kids, aged nine and eight, from a previous relationship (stock image)

But, on the other hand, there were those that argued she was in the wrong as one person commented: 'NTA: Oh honey. It's been two years of this. He's not going to change' 

'Treat yourself, but like others have said, your baby won't really remember, so don't go back into debt for nothing. 

'Pictures are priceless but I'm worried that he would be upset and do something to ruin those memories. Please focus on you and what's best for you and your baby.'

A second person added: 'NTA. He. Is. A. Bum. Dump him and move on to someone who will be an equal partner, not a leech.'

Another wrote: 'NTA. It doesn't sound like your partner brings anything to the table. Save your money to move you and your kid out. This is one of those situations where you could do better by yourself. 

'He's never going to grow up between you and his mother bailing him out for his lack of effort. He's comfortable. You're wasting your years. 

'It sounds like you're starting to resent him. This will only get worse the more you have to forgo things that you want, because you have to cover his a** financially.'

One person added: 'NTA to take your own child to Disney without the bonus kids, as long as you are taking her without them knowing, and honestly I would leave the boyfriend the f*** home. He needs to smarten up. 

'Why you are putting up with his financial instability is beyond me, as he literally made you and your child homeless.'