Woman who got divorced twice before the age of 35 reveals what really went wrong in her marriages

A woman who got divorced twice before the age of 35 has revealed what really went wrong in her marriages.

Leah Marie Mazur, now 41, was first married from 2008 to 2014, but found she and her ex 'weren't compatible' before they split.

By 2016, the New York native had met and married her second husband, but again, things didn't work out, and they were divorced by early 2019. 

Leah said she had a 'wake up call,' and turned to 'practicing mindfulness, meditation, journaling, and cultivating self-awareness,' which eventually lead her to being in 'the healthiest relationship [she's] ever been in,' with her now-husband of three years. 

A woman who got divorced twice before the age of 35 has revealed what went wrong in her marriages

Leah Marie Mazur, now 41, was first married from 2008 to 2014, but found she and her ex 'weren't compatible' before they split

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Leah said her past traumas, including the loss of her mother when she was just 16 and then her father five years later, led to her entering unsuitable relationships.

She said: 'I have no siblings, and had to pick up the pieces by the time I was 21.

'Between these huge losses, I found myself in an abusive relationship that left me even more broken. 

'I struggled with abandonment, low self-esteem, and had no idea who I was.'

After her first marriage broke down, she rushed back into dating.

Leah said: 'Instead of taking the time to heal, I jumped into another relationship to distract myself from my failed marriage.

'Two years later, we broke up, and I was back on the dating apps, terrified of being alone, and worried no one would want me with all my "baggage."      

'I met someone online, he moved in within three weeks, and we were engaged eight months later.

She was first married from 2008 to 2014, and then a second time from 2016 to 2019

Leah said she had a 'wake up call,' and turned to 'practicing mindfulness, meditation, journaling, and cultivating self-awareness' 

'It wasn't enough time to get to know each other. I decided to leave.

'My second divorce was my wake-up call. I knew I needed to focus on myself and my healing.'

Leah continued : 'The biggest misconceptions about divorce are that it means you're selfish or a failure.

'That couldn't be further from the truth. You are responsible for your own happiness.

'If your marriage is negatively affecting your well-being, you need to do something about it.

'It's important to try to address your issues, and concerns before giving up, which I did many times.

'But if you feel like you've done all you can, and nothing is getting better, you need to walk away.'

She knew it was time to look inward, and focus on 'self-healing' before she sought love out again - something she now teaches her clients as a 'divorce recovery coach.'

'I started practicing mindfulness, meditation, journaling, and cultivating self-awareness,' Leah said.

'This helped me understand why I settled in my marriages and made better choices moving forward.

'I learned to love and forgive myself and meet my own needs for the first time.' 

Leah has since found love again, and has been happily married since June 2021

Now sharing her experiences in her job, Leah's aim is to 'help women heal and rebuild their self-esteem post-divorce.'

She said: 'During COVID, while working from home, I learned about life coaching.

'The more I learned, the more I knew this was my calling.

'I took online courses, got certified, and started my own coaching business, focusing on helping women through the divorce recovery process.

'I knew exactly what they were experiencing - the guilt, shame, feelings of failure, and loss of self-esteem.

'I wanted to share the tools I learned, and the mistakes I made, to help others find the light at the end of the tunnel.

'It gives me so much purpose, and makes everything I've gone through feel worth it.'

And Leah has offered up some advice for divorcees getting ready to enter the dating pool again.

She said: 'I don't believe there is an exact formula as to how much time you should wait before dating again, but I do believe it's important to understand your intentions.

She said: 'I don't believe there is an exact formula as to how much time you should wait before dating again, but I do believe it's important to understand your intentions'

'Are you dating because you're lonely, bored, need a self-esteem boost, or afraid of being alone? 

'Those aren't the right ingredients for building a strong foundation in a relationship.

'If you feel whole and happy on your own, and you'd like to date because you're looking for someone who adds value to your life, that's a great sign that you may be ready.'

Leah has since found love again, and has been happily married since June 2021 to her third husband, who has chosen not to be named. 

She said: 'I am now in the healthiest relationship I've ever been in because I took the time to focus on myself, and heal my emotional wounds.

'I got to a place where I felt whole, happy, and fulfilled, and that's when we met.

'I believe we date at the same level as our self-esteem.

'When you know your worth, love yourself, and know what you bring to the table, you'll have higher standards, stronger deal breakers, and attract healthier partners.

'It always starts with you.'