Woman slammed after leaving wedding to go to a BAR upon finding out they weren't serving alcohol - so would YOU do the same?

A woman has sparked a fiery debate after revealing that she ditched her friend's wedding party to go to a bar because the lovebirds weren't serving booze. 

The unknown guest took to Reddit to detail her experience at her pal's 'boring' nuptials as she confessed to telling others at the event she was leaving early to go to a bar.

She admitted that she had expected to get tipsy while celebrating her friend's marriage, however, was stunned to learn it was a 'dry wedding' because the groom was 'two years sober.' 

The anonymous user explained that while the groom's friends all stayed for the afterparty, the bride's pals all ditched her to go celebrate elsewhere.

In the 'Am I The A**hole' subreddit, the guest questioned if she was in the wrong for leaving her friend's wedding so she could go get drunk with other guests. 

A woman has sparked a fiery debate after revealing that she ditched her friend's wedding party to go to a bar because the lovebirds weren't serving booze (stock image)

'So two weeks ago, I, [a 35-year-old female], went to a wedding in our college town for a member of our college friend group,' she wrote.

'My husband and I left the kids with my parents and we went. We got a [rental home] with another couple I went to college with for a few days. My husband and I don't have a ton of time to ourselves away from the kids so we were excited to let loose.' 

The Reddit user said that wedding went until 11pm with 'an after party with the bride and groom at the venue.'

'The venue was a gorgeous mansion and the bride and groom had it for the night, they were leaving for the honeymoon the next morning,' she added. 

And while they were initially overjoyed to attend the wedding, once they arrived, their excitement quickly shifted to disappoint.  

'Cut to wedding day and it's a dry wedding. Apparently, the groom is two years sober. No one told us this and we were admittedly bummed,' the original poster said. 

And, when the couple discovered that they wouldn't be partying with a cup of booze in their hand, they decided they would seek fun elsewhere. 

The bride's friend explained that she then told other guests that she would be going to bars instead of her pal's afterparty. 

The unknown guest took to Reddit to detail her experience at her pal's 'boring' nuptials as she confessed to telling others at the event she was leaving early to go to a bar

'We left the wedding at 9:30 because we were itching to go out and the wedding was boring,' she added. 

She explained that although the ceremony was at 5pm and the wedding was at 6pm, the bride was still disappointed when they left at 9:30. 

'Pretty much the whole college crew left around that time and went out. Apparently, the bride's friend group did not stay for the party, the groom's did and the optics were very lopsided at the party,' she continued.

'We all heard from the bride about this and she called us a**holes for leaving. She said that she didn't feel supported and felt like we were spiteing her now husband for his sobriety. I told her that she was reading too much into it. 

'We just wanted to go out. She is especially mad at me as I'm looked at as the ringleader of this outing.' 

At the end of the post, the user admitted that she didn't think she did anything 'wrong' and questioned if she was the 'a**hole.' 

Many people on the web flooded the comments section of the thread and slammed the bride's friend for her behavior. 

One person said: 'Your the a**hole. You are going to get a lot of, "if you can't have fun without alcohol then you have a serious addiction problem and you suck", crowd but I don't agree with that sentiment at all and I think it misses the point entirely so I want to be clear that's not why I'm voting YTA (you're the a**hole). 

'I do think that couples should disclose that ahead of time so that people can plan for it since alcohol at weddings is the norm.

Many people on the web flooded the comments section of the thread and slammed the bride's friend for her behavior

'But you are an a**hole for this: "We told people we were going to some bars after and not going to the after party. We left the wedding at 9:30."

'You were talking s**t AT HER WEDDING, and then you formed a whole group to leave her party early. That's a bad friend. Skipping her dry after party to go out after would be totally fine, expected even, but to leave the wedding early and bringing a group with you??? Yeah, you suck super super hard.

'She is trying to support her now husband and she'll be supporting him like that during the whole marriage and you couldn't even support your friend for 1.5 more hours? Life isn't about only ever doing what you want to do. You are running on a greedy algorithm, only choosing what makes you happy in the moment, others be damned, and that's not what makes a good person. 

'Sometimes we have to sit through long ceremonies for our siblings. Sometimes we have to go to boring art shows for our friends. Sometimes we have to participate in boring parties to celebrate the people we love. Get over it!'

Another user added: 'I'd like to call you, not the a**hole. Had you just left quietly and not talked about it with groups of people, you would have gotten that judgment.

'Unfortunately, you're the a**hole. You told all the friends that this sucked and you were leaving to go get drunk, and became a ringleader for the group of friends to follow.'

Someone else wrote: 'You're the a**hole. That's kind of a crappy way to treat a "friend." Basically you all abandoned the wedding celebration, and I'm guessing she was looking forward to celebrating her wedding with her "friends." Hence why you were invited. And it was a reasonable expectation of hers that you actually wanted to celebrate her marriage, since you went.

'Honestly, you should go to weddings to celebrate and support the marriage of the friends and/or family, drinking should never a necessity. Even if you were bummed about the alcohol, celebrating and being happy for your friend would take priority over you getting drunk.'

One user added: 'You're the a**hole. I'm going to get downvoted because people seem to hate dry weddings, but as someone with a partner in recovery, I will never understand why people can’t go without for one night to support someone you supposedly care about. You picked getting drunk over spending time with your friends for the entire reason you were out to begin with. '

However, other users took the pal's side and claimed that she stayed long enough, sparking a fiery debate in the comments section

However, other users took the pal's side and claimed that she stayed long enough, sparking a fiery debate in the comments section. 

One person wrote: 'Not the a**hole. 10pm is a perfectly reasonable time to leave a wedding. Some guests started filtering out of my wedding at like 8:00 and I didn't cry about it, just hugged them and sincerely thanked them for coming.'

Someone else commented: 'Not the a**hole for leaving. I suppose it would be polite to NOT say anything when you’re going. But I don't think leaving a wedding at 9:30pm is an a**hole move. If you were going to pick up your kids or something, I don’t think she'd be upset.

'She's upset because she's embarrassed. And she's only embarrassed because ALL her friends left. You're not responsible for everyone's actions. Also I've never heard of a wedding "after party."'

One user added: 'Not the a**hole. 9:30 is a perfectly reasonable time to leave an event. At my wedding, we had people leaving earlier than that for various reasons, and it's perfectly ok.

'If you're planning something that's lasting until late at night, it's your job as a host to entertain your guests. If they aren't entertained and leaving on mass before it's over, then it's on you.'

'Not the a**hole, that's what happens when you surprise guests with a dry wedding,' one person commented.