Minnesota pastor, 45, sets up throuple farm with his two younger lovers, as he reveals the fascinating rules of their polyamorous life

A Minnesota pastor has set up a throuple farm alongside his two younger lovers, revealing how they live their polyamorous life.

Bryan Demeritte, 52, lives on his 10-acre farmstead in Waseca alongside his partners Deron Demeritte, 38, and Joshua Rodriguez, 24. 

The trio hunt and fish, raise chickens and grow their own fruits and vegetables among a polyamorous community called the Loving More Farmstead. 

Bryan, who also works as a part-time Unitarian pastor and seminary professor, describes Deron and Joshua as his two husbands.

Speaking with the Minnesota Star Tribune, Bryan told the outlet that in the non-monogamous community the three are considered 'nesting partners'.

Bryan Demeritte, center, lives on a 10-acre farmstead in Waseca alongside his partners Deron Demeritte, right, and Joshua Rodriguez,left

Bryan, who also works as a part-time Unitarian pastor and seminary professor, describes Deron and Joshua as his two husbands

According to Bryan, he is the 'hinge' - meaning Bryan has a physical and romantic relationship with both men, but they don't have that with each other. 

Joshua and Bryan have been in a committed relationship for five years, while he and Deron consider themselves as 'brother husbands'. 

Bryan is a former teacher who grew up Baptist in Missouri, while Deron is originally from the Bahamas and has a background in industrial and commercial HVAC. 

The two have been legally married to each for 11 years, with Joshua - who is also planning on adopting their surname, having grown up in Boston.  

Deron told the outlet: 'I love Josh, but I’m not in love with Josh. We're like brothers, almost.'

The trio recently moved from their five-bedroom ranch  as both business and relationship partners in what they have called Loving More Farmstead. 

They have three barns, a field of corn, four small vineyards, an apple orchard, geese and 72 Heritage chickens. 

They are also hoping to add a market vegetable garden and raise sheep for lamb meat next.

According to Bryan, he doesn't know of any other gay, nesting, polyamorous, multiracial farming households.

The trio recently moved from their five-bedroom ranch as both business and relationship partners in what they have called Loving More Farmstead

So far they haven't had any issues fitting in with the rural community, with Bryan saying: 'We're the happiest we've ever been.

'I think people in this Minnesota sense are very welcoming, but they also just leave you alone. We're all just people. We're just trying to love.' 

While their lifestyle isn't typical, it is not unconventional as it was once regarded according to publications. 

A recent New York Times story on non-monogamy and polyamory paints it as being a fashionable approach to relationships. 

An article from the New Yorker last December titled 'How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?' noted the relationships appearing in books, movies, perfume ads and television shows.

While local non-monogamy group MNPoly have reported that its membership has grown to over 4,000 members, up around 1,000 since 2020. 

Marie LePage, a Minneapolis non-monogamy and life coach, told the outlet: 'It has become more accepted.

While their lifestyle isn't typical, it is not unconventional as it was once regarded according to publications

'I personally feel more comfortable telling a stranger [about her nonmonogamous relationships]'.

While the co-chair of MNPoly Maija Hitt added: 'We’re trying to normalize non]monogamy. 

'To [the youth], it’s becoming no big deal. They’re openly nonmonogamous. They don’t hide it.'

According to a 2023 Pew Research Center Survey, a third of all American adults say open marriages are somewhat or completely acceptable. 

Half of adults under 30 also said that open marriages are acceptable, according to the survey. 

Demeritte is working on a book titled 'The More Love the Better', which will discuss non-monogamy in the 21st century from his theological perspective.

He told the outlet: 'Someone you know is nonmonogamous. It is becoming more and more mainstream. It’s time to let people be who they want to be and live the way they want to live.'